I have no yet mentioned the bride speech. Now not every bride will give a speech at her wedding but it is becoming more and more popular these days.
Therefore I think it is wise to mention the fact that many couples actually write their speeches together usually at about the same time they are composing their vows.
At our wedding we did not want to ruin the romance of the evening by knowing what the other one was going to say so we did not sit down together to write our speeches.
However we did agree on some general points so we didn’t cover the same ground when it came to thanking people for their help with our wedding.
Decisions, Decisions
When it comes speeches, whether it be the father of the groom speeches, father of the bride speeches, groom wedding speeches or even bridesmaid speeches I is always a good idea to make sure you don’t all thank the same people.
Although there is nothing wrong with this it can be boring for the guest and should someone be accidently left out, or just think that they should have been mentioned when they weren’t. It can be particularly troublesome when they are left out several times!
Not all brides and grooms give separate speeches. Sometimes both speak together and at other times just one speaks. Usually when only one partner speaks the groom speech will take precedent.
A Perfect Speech
If both you and your future wife intend to give speeches it is a good idea to consult each other about what you will talk about as far as the two of you meeting goes or the proposal etc. Often when the bride and groom do not openly communicate about their speeches they end up telling the same stories.
A good way to approach this is to tell different stories. One of you can cover the first time you meet or fell in love while the other covers the proposal.
Or, you could both give a different slant to the same story. Often each party has a different view of the first meeting and telling these stories can be very entertaining especially if you plan on giving a funny groom speech.
